7 Ways To Reignite Your Goals

goals Jul 06, 2022

First published by HuffPost.

Well, it's been about six months since you've made your New Year's resolutions. And it's likely been about six months since you've left them all in the dust.

This does not mean that you need to spend the next 6 months on the couch, elbow-deep in a bag of chips. There are plenty of ways to reignite your resolutions and have year-end success.

Choose 'goals with soul.'

Danielle LaPorte, author of The Desire Map urges us to find goals that we really care about and goals that make us feel good. Making a goal to be able to outplay our kids in the park or be able to go waterskiing with cottage-owning friends by mid-summer sounds a lot more appealing than a goal to, say, do 75 quad burners a day.

Enlist a friend.

Maybe you are trying to lose five pounds so that you have more energy and look super amazing in leather leggings this spring. Maybe your friend is trying to save money to put a down payment on a condo. Make a pact that you will help each other.

When you go out, she will make sure you do not order a double mocha-whatsit and you will make sure she does not buy that super darling pair of not-even-remotely-necessary shoes. The key to this relationship is honesty: you do not want to enable each other. Tough love is required.

Scrap any resolutions that no longer work for you.

A few years ago, I wanted to write a novel. Then I realized that writing it was making me feel sad and grumpy. So I took that item off my list and broadened my goal to simply write every day. I can blog, work on a new non-fiction idea, or simply write really charming Instagram captions. It's so much easier to achieve goals that better work for me.

Reward yourself with something helpful.

Obviously, it makes no sense to reward yourself for a great workout with a supersized bag of croissants. But maybe if you've been to the gym for four days a week for a month, you can buy a new cute gym top. If you've saved $1,000, you can take a vacation day to simply walk around the city and enjoy some of the free museums and parks. If I have good writing week at home, I reward myself by writing with a friend in a café. As humans, we need to be rewarded for our efforts. The key is to find small, sustainable rewards that don't undo all of our good efforts.

Link the goal to something bigger.

People tend to be more motivated if it feels that our efforts reach beyond our own little worlds. If you are looking to save money, commit to giving a donation to a favourite charity if you exceed your savings goal. Feeling you are doing something for someone else can be very motivating. If you are looking to do a 5K run, do a charity run. You are, of course, in the end, doing this for yourself, but knowing that others could benefit from your efforts will help spur you on.

Publicly state your goals.

As any reader of Brené Brown can attest, people will go out of their way to avoid feelings of shame. If you want to run a marathon, state your goal on Facebook. If you want to write a book this year, tell your friends and join a writing group.

You are more likely to do things if people are constantly asking you how much you've accomplished. The only caution is if this goal is no longer working for you, feel free to have a change of heart. It takes guts to pursue one path and then, after some careful thought, move in another direction.

Deliberately shed a goal.

Style icon Coco Chanel understood the human tendency to add on more than necessary when she said, "Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and take one thing off." The same is true of goals. If you resolved to eat better, drink more water, exercise three times a week, plan one family fun activity a week, and quit sugar, please feel free to drop a couple of those items.

Life is long and we have lots of time to do everything we need to do. If, by the end of this year, you are drinking more water and exercising regularly, consider yourself a rock star and give yourself a hug.

Good luck!